The one thing that is constant in life is ‘change’. Seasons, surroundings, situations, people and time are all evolving at a fast pace. Sometimes you get along with these changes, sometimes you don’t. Sometimes you appreciate these changes and sometimes you just don’t. Recently, my life presented a beautiful change in my life at a very high speed.
I had always dreamt of getting married and having a beautiful wedding. 2 months ago, on 9th of January this dream manifested and I had a magical wedding. Being married to the person I love is the best thing ever and I feel super blessed. This event was placed in my life a bit earlier than what I had anticipated. I got engaged and married in a span of 6 months and it is fair to say that I haven’t had enough time to process this change.
When your life changes, be it a new city, a new job, parting with someone close or, as in my case- getting married, processing this change and adjusting to it can be a struggle. When life seems to be moving at the speed of light, it can get hard to cope up. I have felt this speed for last few months and I finally am feeling like I might just catch up.
When life overwhelms you with a lot of stuff, know that you will be okay. In today’s blog post, I want to share a few tips that helped me catch up and stay sane this whole time. No matter what change life is throwing at you, no matter how fast things are changing, use these tips to keep yourself at your best.
If you have to take just one lesson from this blog post, I hope you take this one. “Change is a part of life and no-one has ever found peace in denial.” When one area of your life changes, it obviously affects the other areas of life as well. Even if you accept the ‘big change’, you may find it difficult to accept the other changes that come along with it.
For example, when you get a new job and you will accepted the fact that your work life is changing. The key point here is that you will also have to accept changes in other areas of life that come along with this. For example, due to change in your working hours, you may have to change your personal routines or you may have to move to a new place or area. You may also have to change your food timings. Challenges of a new job may bring stress which can affect your behaviour at home as well.
In my case, I had to accept the change that came in my work life due to my personal life. I had to change my work timings according to my new schedule. My workplace also changed since I work from home. Accepting these add-on changes makes the transition smoother.
When life throws big changes at you, it is natural for you to feel overwhelmed and stressed. In such situations, you need a person, a thing, a vision or an intention to keep you sane. An anchor is anything that reassures you that ‘everything will work out in the end’. For me, my anchor is my husband who supports, encourages and celebrates me so that I don’t go crazy trying to transition into this new life.
You anchor does not have to be a person. If someone close to you has passed away, a thing to remember them by can be your anchor. If you have changed your career path, the intention to be passionate about your work can be your anchor. Everyone has an anchor, find yours and keep it close.
I am going to be honest with you here and tell you that – ‘You cannot cope up with big changes overnight.’ I have lost people close to me, I have moved to a new city, I have started at new places from nothing – I have had many life defining changes. No change has ever been easy and I have never transitioned into it overnight.
When I say be patient, I am asking you to be patient with yourself. You will figure it out eventually and you will get on track soon. Do not be hard on yourself and do not freak out because you are lagging behind. To practice patience remember these three things-
- Do not indulge in negative self-talk
- You will get better at new things eventually
- Do not burden yourself with unrealistic expectations
Show yourself some grace in such big life changes and you will be fine.
If you are going through a big change in life, these three things will help you get your life back to normal. In addition to these, I have some tips that have helped me in last few months.
- Refresh your goals by considering this change in your life.
- Reward yourself when you reach any small milestones
- Look at the bright side so that you don’t lose out on motivation
- Express yourself every now and then so that you feel free
All changes in life – good or bad, big or small – serve a greater purpose in the story of your life. Trust that this will bring more value in your life and that your life journey is a beautiful experience. Stay happy, stay positive!