An year ago, I had no idea what I was going to do in my life and ended up feeling lost. Getting past that feeling and finding clarity about my life path was the best experience ever ever. I felt lost career wise but someone else can feel the same way relationship wise.
Feeling lost is more complex than feeling overwhelmed or feeling confused. If you are feeling confused or indecisive here is an article on How to overcome indecisiveness. When your are stuck in an unfulfilling life setting; maybe career, health, relationships or mindset; you feel lost. In such cases you may realise symptoms such as
- Negative self talk
- Constant dissatisfaction
- Lack of energy
- And of course, unhappiness
There sure is a solution to this problem. I have identified a 4 step process to get clear on your life path. It is very important to go about this process in a systematic manner. Give yourself reasonable amount of time to implement each one of these steps.
You feel lost and you want to get out of this situation as soon as possible. But before you do that, have a hard look at your present situation, know what feels right and what just comes out to be wrong. This is so important to find your path and make sure you do not end in similar situation again.
Life audit is the best thing anyone can do when they feel lost. Everyone can have a different approach to life audit, but I like to take a hard look at each area of my life. The hardest thing with a life audit is that we do not want to face our problems and ignore them like they do not exist. There are various ways to reflect on your life situation but my personal favorite is Level 10 Life method.
You can use the Level 10 Life approach to do a creative life audit. It helps you audit your life and set goals in 10 areas of life. You audit and set the level you are currently at and set a goal for the level you want to achieve. It is systematic and creative process that will change the way you set and achieve goals.
Confide to someone
Most often when we are feeling lost, we put up a mask of having it all together. Are you doing the same? You are not alone, I kept things to myself, pretended that all was good and lied to everyone including me. But trust me, this is not healthy because it will burst someday and chances are, things will be irreparable. So here is what I did and what you can do.
You do not need to get up and tall the world that you are feeling lost and pointless in life. Talk to someone who you know won’t judge you, cares about you and respects you. It can be anyone, your best friend, sibling, partner or parent – just one person. Sharing your feelings and being vulnerable is one of the most liberating things ever.
If you feel judged by every person you know or don’t want to bother them with your problems, talk to a therapist. If that not a very affordable solution, you can always email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I know how it feels to be lost, i know it’s natural and I know you needn ear.
Just a side note. If it is difficult for you to open up, you should consider reading The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown. She talks all about vulnerability and how it makes you powerful.
I have turned my life from unfulfilling and stressful to blissful and calm by starting an intentional living journey (not minimalist, but intentional living). You can do the same by setting your intentions for life. What I mean by setting intentions is to find out what is it that brings meaning to your life. I strongly recommend you to read A meaningful life and Getting started with intentional living if you are feeling lost.
If you are not into intentional living, you can set tangible life goals if that suits you. The basic concept of this step is to find a reason to get up each and every single day. If you are looking for guidance in setting your intentions, I have a 5 page workbook to help you set your intentions. You can grab it right here!
So all the foundational stuff is done, you have analyzed your life, you have set your intentions and you liberated your heart. At this point you might feel as if you have things under control, but if you are not aligned and balanced, this state will be long gone and lostness will come back.
Remember the life audit you did? Take it and find out what you need to change. When I did my first life audit 2 years ago, I found issues with my health, relationships and mindset. I did a thorough self-reflection to find out what needs to be changed in me. My biggest flaw was the way I took people for granted.
Make small tweaks in your mindset to change your life scenario. If you are fat and you say I am going to go to the gym and everything will be alright. Here’s the truth – you will go to the gym for like a week or even a month and give up when you don’t see results. Make changes in your mindset – tell yourself I am a fitness freak. When your mind accepts that you are a fitness freak, the habits will just flow with it. Read 3 techniques to master your mindset to get more inspiration.
The feeling lost goes away with three things – knowing yourself, feeling understood and willingness to improve. These 4 steps will help you achieve that and hep you live the life you truly deserve. If you like my content, be sure to join my email list as I send out nuggets of self improvement experiences and resources through emails.